...and half of learning how to play is learning what not to play and she's learning the spaces she leaves have their own things to say then she's trying to sing just enough so that the air around her moves and make music like mercy that gives what it is and has nothing to prove
she crawls out on a limb and begins to build her home it's enough just to look around to know she's not alone... -Up Up Up, Ani DiFranco
Pornography plays a big part in normalizing the ways in which we are demeaned and attacked, in how humiliating and insulting us is made to look natural and inevitable.
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And think about pornography as a new institution of social control, a democratic use of terrorism against all women, a way of saying publicly to every woman who walks down the street: avert your eyes (a sign of second-class citizenship), look down, bitch, because when you look up you're going to see a picture of yourself being hung, you're going to see your legs spread open. That is what you are going to see.